Live in relationship

Live- in relationships, what a cool term it is! Boy and girl living together without marriage in the same apartment, sharing food, expenses, togetherness,, emotions, coziness!! And above all greatest part “NO COMMITMENT”

I witnessed this in my college time, when two dearest friends of mine eventually started living together, I was amazed, coming from a small town, where even shaking hand with stranger girl being looked at, interrogated and declared your girlfriend!! (Don’t remember how many GFs I had by that standards!!)

I can’t experience Live in relationships now and that’s why I decided to Pen it down! (Shit! Shit Shit!)

People have different opinion about “Live in”. Old school of thought says it’s a big No No, how can two unmarried people stay together (as if marriage is the Punch card designed by them to enter the house)

And people of my generation say it’s a big yes, who bloody who want to miss out the benefits of staying together yet no commitment (No, I didn’t mean sex only but all needs without paying big price!)

I am seeing this trend of “Live ins” will grow in india and it will grow multifold.

The rate at which students/working people are leaving their hometowns for better job is phenomenal. They live in suitcases travelling city by city.

Here are few points why I thought they will grow:

Sense of comfort with opposite sex

Girls have more male friends these days vs their own type ( weird type). They see more sense of comfort with opposite sex as they fulfill their needs of pampering, spending, emotional support, non jealousness part time physical needs ( don’t underestimate power of part time physical needs like hugging, kissing, cozying etc, it’s the major draw when two are attracted towards each other, Power of touch as per my earlier blog u see!!)

Similarly Males love to have more girls in their groups (and in private too!!); it gives them chance to display their emotional side, stability, no competition who will take away that particular girl and yes sense of comfort.

Both leading to acknowledge they can stay together.

No parents watching…shhhshhh

We youth (I am included in youth, just because I am writing this blog doesn’t mean otherwise, huh)

 When being watched upon, hate it man hate it, since childhood, we have been directed to do things as per parents wish We people wating for the right time( soldiers wating to fire,dhikchoon) ( when we will leave for study/work we will do this and that and most dream about booze, smoke only)

So when we get a chance to fly (I mean out of home) , our to do things list flashes. First comes to mind is freedom, if some home broker tells you that there is no house available at your budget and in case u want to live in good flat, you have to share it with a girl/guy( you will have seprate room) beyond a point, u will say ok ( its not easy, but trends are increasing)

Trying Dummy marriage

Most of us like to try things out, so why not “live ins’ . If one gets opportunity to try dummy marriage (this is the excuse given by most to get in to Live ins)

·         You have to share expenses so no chic chic with another girl

·         You have to handle minor version of expectations of fulfilling all your responsibities as a roommate.

·         All cheap works like bills payment, electricity, getting appliances corrected will be done asap

·         Occasional cooking will be done by the girl with complete ground work done by the guy.

Some needs fulfilled

When a boy and girl start living together ( in Live ins) Unintentionally they satisfy some needs of each other, sense of belongingness, care, responsibities, equality, protectiveness for a girl, stability for a guy, and  a different relationship starts building which doesn’t have boundaries, expectations, freedom , experimentations, bonding.

Future is fast paced, with aspirations rising high and high, convenience becoming priority, and more and more emotional support required by the males and females, This trend will grow and will find acceptance in society.

And inspite of being away from home from last 12 years, I was not able to experience this relationship, I am sad L

Rest in my next blog

Vikas sachdeva

Guy's talk

This is not a fantasy blog, all characters are fictitious and have no resemblance to any person dead or living, This is an attempt to share some common happenings:

1.       Just observe, when two couples meet, boys always look to other girl and yes they scan her top to bottom while girls look at each other looking at what the other is wearing, looking pretty or not, who is superior!

2.       In smaller towns the word “ Aur aap batao” is repeated endlessly till people get some topic to discuss or blame.

3.       In marriages in north, even on chilly nights, girls are comfortable wearing normal suits till they suspect at least somebody is looking at them, Once this assumption is nullified, they start feeling cold.

4.       Every Beautiful girl is considered someone’s bhabhi in boys group and everybody claims to be her husband without even a single blink by the girl.

5.       Hands and eyes are glued on the mobile after sending the message to anybody and any blink/Tone is assumed his/her reply.

6.       Normally when two girls are walking and talking, The talk is generally about a guy who is trying to woo her and she claiming she is not interested!

7.       While riding a two wheeler with a girl on the back, the girl in the car coming from the front always stares at you and you feel good!

8.       The best way to “Patao” a girl in Pubs is just continuous looking at her and then ignoring her.

9.       Going to a mall with girl and choosing a dress from that mall and BUYING from that mall without exploring all possibilities in rest of the malls is a crime.

10.   Just say “you are sad” the entire world will come to ask you “why” making you more sad.

11.   By pressing “like” button doesn’t always mean that you really liked the comment, People have liked comments also “I attended uncle’s  funeral”

12.   A research shows girls are 5 times more excited during kissing….and indeed a lot of time is wasted persuading her to let her kiss and yes I want to be that researcher.

13.   You have more friends if you always pay.

14.   You cant avoid,your day will start with Shampoo, conditioner, face wash, Body wash and look at the final product out of the bathroom, just the same as it was yesterday!

15.   Many times I have said Flirting is an art, it is about compliments, spending money endlessly on a girl and talking ( only talking) about Love and assuming that she really likes you.

16.   Love is directly proportional to frequency and amount on each gift you give to a girl and assuming she is getting it from you only even if you managed to sneak in her room ( lucky!) and see many gifts from other boys,apart from you and in front of you they all will be from friends.

Hope it made you smile!

Rest in next blog

Vikas sachdeva

"Ladki kaise patayen"

A relaxed Sunday , with no work (as if I do work, huh!), Sahara sports awards on TV & I am alone in the house as swati has gone for her leisure trip (believe me girls love this word most- Leisure). While she must be enjoying the holidays with all the luxurious home made food , chaats & chatting, roaming around in the market entertaining lots of shopkeepers but pleasing only one or two as she will be buying from them in the quantities which they will like.

And me, yes me! Instead of looking out for some gorgeous beauties outside (its afternoon yaar!) spending time by waiting for the maid who will cook & help this brilliant personality (in case you don’t know who, its me!) can eat.

 In today’s blog, I want to help those poor chaps jo kaafi time laga dete hain ladki patane mein aur kabhi kabhi to pta hi nahi paate, you know there is fierce competition 941 girls for every 1000 boys, before worrying about 59 boys who will be left out,

let me extend a helping hand to all those jo bus aah bhi karte hai to ho jaate hain badnam, aur wo katal bhi karte hain to charcha nahi hoti.

 Ladki patane se pehle you need to understand basic behavior pattern which is common among all girls jo maine barson se itni mehnat se seekha hai,aaj bata raha hun

1.You need to have spontaneous sense of humor, girls love this, you need to be spontaneous in pulling somebody’s legs (I didn’t mean that way!) in front of her, and she will really think you are smart whatever may be the reality.
2.Be flirtiest but after gauging the limit of the girl in front of you.( Go on IF the there are signals but start with

Tum aaj achi lag rahi ho!

Nice dress!!

Your earings are looking good (always remember accessories ki tariff karma bahut jaroori hai!)

Hey where did u bought this jeans from, you look good in this (and next time whenever she will pull the jeans from her almirah,you, you are the first person that will be flashed in her mind!)

Stare at her (in her eyes damid) for 10-12 seconds and smile for 3- 4 days & then for 2-3 days don’t give attention at all, look busy. ( This point is for throwing a questionnaire in her mind) Why did he look at me like this? He likes me? Ok, I wll wear this today! What happened, suddenly kya ho gaya hai usko, dekh bhi nahi raha? & so on.

Remember , Girls take time, they analyze you completely on following points before considering you

Looks: dressing sense, smartness, weather you both will look good together in public and her friend circle. Financials: salary (yes the take home not CTC) and you need to have strong finances for her to put you in the contender list.

Nod from her friends: Even if you are great, but lot of things depends what her friends think about you, you better be in their wish list too to make your girl feel that she is making right decision by choosing you as her friends shouldn’t get you. she consults with her friends more often.

& you need to be fun loving, caring, not asking about her friends, protective, romantic & so on & you thought it’s easy.

isliye don’t say to yourself after 2-3 meetings with girl, “yaar, I will marry her” because currently her observation & analysis mode is on.

Sometimes fake your emotions & tell her something that should sound personal “ pata nahi kyun, aaj man nahi lag raha ,akela lag raha hai, ne way hws life ( akela my foot!)

You should offer her anything that should make her find interest in you Gossips Movies Parties Personality

You need to show respect for her more often in public.

Gifts always make her interested depending on the amount you spend on gifts , but make sure you are doing investment not spends.

When you talk, always see in her eyes, this eye contact is very crucial. Girls always like to be attention seeker, so dare you give the same when demanded.

Don’t sound too much intellectual while in conversations, with the period of time you will be termed as boring or GOOD FRIEND.

With the mood swings, you also need to change your topics of discussions continuously, be on your toes.

TRY TO LEAD ALWAYS, do not depend on her to take calls Kahan jaayen aaj sham ko? (bloody u need to tell for suggestion aaj shaam ko Chinese khaane chalte hain ? Let’s go out on a trip this weekend

They seek approvals on whatever they do, be political & smart always. So guys, buck up, I have always believed that ki agar tum chaho to kisi bhi ladki ko pata sakte ho, you can really do her , be it anybody.

All they want is money, understanding, gifts, love, secure future ( car, flat), less spying, always praising whatever they do & so on……

All the best, rest in my next 

Vikas Sachdeva

Power of Touch

Power of Touch & this is the only part which was missing in her life, I mean Kiran’s life, she had boyfriend Rakesh but in another city, phone calls, SMS were all there but yes the number was decreasing day by day.

 Then Akash entered her life as a friend, a good friend, lover and now husband. He played the game beautifully, just putting hand over her shoulder & saying, don’t worry I am there. Hugging when it mattered the most, soft slaps on her cheeks had become part of daily life,

she had started living her life with fresh air & her earlier boyfriend Rakesh was no where part of her life now.

By the way, Akash had also one beautiful girlfriend named Avani but again in another city, when she heard about Akash & his new venture, She really cried hard in front of me ( I was just a common friend between Akash and Avani) A Touch had changed Kiran” life, she was in need of that. Somebody who could pull her hair when she did any mistake, somebody to apply cream when her foot was hurt, somebody’s shoulders on which she can put her head in the night & close her eyes.

Everybody needs that touch, that love. A friend who can understand without uttering any word, by just looking into your eyes and saying I love holding hand together while walking in the night meaning I am there for you. In college I had one question & that was Why girls do so much of drama, kiddishness in front of guys,mujhe ye chahiye,…pls no….. you, movie chalen…..tell no……coffee at my place? & why it cant be I want this or lets go for movie , why this “no”. I was then enlightened by my friend Shweta, Girls do this so as they can get your attention, Pampering & I was satisfied with that answer to move on in my life.


when somebody is happy, Just put your shoulder around his neck & say I am happy for you,the entire life he will feel the same touch whenever he meets you. When somebody is feeling lonely ( & I am also including the scenes when you are surrounded by people & yet searching for someone) ,Just hold his hand & say Don’t worry,Main hoon na , chal lets go for small trip……oh boy, you know by holding the hand you have completed his life at that moment.

When someone is sad, look into his eyes and don’t say anything, just hear him out completely, & just be there.( beware don’t use the old lines, ye sabke saath hota hai,mere saath bhi hua & don’t start your own story) When somebody is crying, hug him hard, There is no harm in submission

Yes, we have to fight our battles by own self, Yes, We have different environments to cope with, Yes, we have different people to deal with. But yes, when you give that TOUCH to somebody, you have really arrived in his life, In a scenario where everybody is running a race, your touch will make people smile & you will get touch someday too!!

A relaxed Sunday morning, need to go to honor some touches (ooh la la!)


Rest in my next

Love you all

Vikas Sachdeva

Girls shopping

All The characters living in this document are not fictitious but real.Any resemblence is not conincidental but drawn from real experiences & observations.

Pls dont go by the name of this article as you are not going to the market & buy a girl...!!

"Do you have red color in this?"

"How is it looking...good no!!!!

"I like the design but they dont have my size...."

"You are hopless....you dont help me in shopping"

"She is wearing Fab india Kurta no!!

"Thoda aur dekhte hain.....jaldi kya hai...abhi to aaye hain!!


These are few lines which must have heard often ( if you have girlfriend,& If you have not,dont worry,you will get one,Everybody gets,No body is spared!!)

The only thing that every girl happy is the shopping,Men are just there to lift the shopping bags,Just see the smile on a girl's face when u say shopping,many couples in the malls,just see,girls are really smiling & happy while guys are just standing along or generally found standing in lines the pay the bill ( which is only saddest part,beleive apart from this,rest of shopping is really a experience in itself) & the girl still looking for some more clothes & more clothes & more clothes.

Few points

1.At home,they really know what they are need( i really have less no of tops,my jeans is old,just 2 T shirts i need to buy thats all),but when they are looking,the guy is standing with 2 jeans,3 t shirts,2 kurtas,one handbag outside the trial rooms when the girl is trying ....( thats y the rule of only 3 garments for trial at atime must have been made...thank god...he has only 3 at one go)...& the great part is she is coming again & again to show him how she is looking,while he want to excercise the option that this top is really bullshit & u r looking ugliest but instead he chooses to say...Nice.....buy one....

2.Whenever a girl says ,how it is looking,If guy says,its looking great...girls gives second look to it & keeps it back in the rack.......color acha nahi hai na...isliye....& when it happens repeatedly ,the guy ( the hero) says yes to all clothes & still at the receiving end...tumko to har cheezhi achai lagti hai,sach batao,not good,tumko jaldi hai na isliye keh rahe ho na....what the hell!!!

3.Just see if two girls have gone for shopping,the no of units ( clothes) bought will be less in comparison to when a girl goes with a guy,see it matters who pays!!

4.For a girl,when she is searching for a cloth in the mall,for some time,no world exists for her,running arround,seeing that kurtas,that mix & match...untill she realises that she has come with his guy ( somebody shd be there for payment na),,,,so dear you also exist.....

5.They seek approval & if approval is strong( bus le lo yaar ,ye to bahut acha lag raha hai),then there is no second thought,that has been bought irrespective of weather it was there is the list or not....

6.You may go to diffrent 3-4 places for shopping & not buy anything & then coming back to 1st mall & buy the 1st kurta that she saw!!....where is bloody newton?...he shd have made some law



Oh forgot to mention,when she is paying ( dont know who sees this day) ,if cashier asks for one rupee change,she open her big purse,then a small purse is pulled out....then all the pockets are searched & then finally again the guy says...ruko...i may havethe change ( i know yahan pe bhi guy is at fault,usne pehle kyun nahi bola....)

I thought that this monopoly needs to be broken...so whenever me & wife goes to mall,at the end my shopping bags are more in number than hers...huh!!...


Buy people,its fun,u r at ur best when she is around....!!...so wat r u wating for......go for shopping today itself( with ur purse empty)

cheers


lot to share more in my next blog...


vikas sachdeva