Sea

Sea

We were sitting on the seashore on carter road 2 years back when she muttered, “We get so philosophical when we are in front of the sea”.

I looked at her and said, “Yes, you are so right.”

She was so proud at that moment as if she had won a big battle, that calmness on her face that day was so special. She just smiled and again looked at the sea, now more deeply. Cool breeze was flowing just to sooth us; surprisingly we were not able to hear the chaos in that lane and were so immersed in looking at the divine sea.

Being a Pisces (sign- Fish), I always get moved by water, I just love sea, I can look into the sea for hours without saying a single word . When I came to Mumbai, I used to go to bandstand in the morning and read books while sea was giving me company. It was so beautiful at 6.30 – 7 am in the morning all alone near the shore..

I find sea very authoritative, its tone say that I will do whatever I feel like, I will sooth you in the day time and I will be mysterious in the night. Yes, I find sea mysterious at night; I always believe there is something happening inside at the bottom, some conspiracy (you can call it a illusion or something).

On that day, something was special, I don’t know what, we both were silent and yet there was no urge to speak, to convey something, it was like so connected. Then suddenly she said, you know what the difference between soulmate and life partner is.

I said, “No.”

She said “People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.  

A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake.  A soul mate’s purpose is to shake you up.”

Then she went on and on ….and I was smiling at sea what wonder he had done to her that day…..

#unforgettable-evening

"Ladki kaise patayen"

A relaxed Sunday , with no work (as if I do work, huh!), Sahara sports awards on TV & I am alone in the house as swati has gone for her leisure trip (believe me girls love this word most- Leisure). While she must be enjoying the holidays with all the luxurious home made food , chaats & chatting, roaming around in the market entertaining lots of shopkeepers but pleasing only one or two as she will be buying from them in the quantities which they will like.

And me, yes me! Instead of looking out for some gorgeous beauties outside (its afternoon yaar!) spending time by waiting for the maid who will cook & help this brilliant personality (in case you don’t know who, its me!) can eat.

 In today’s blog, I want to help those poor chaps jo kaafi time laga dete hain ladki patane mein aur kabhi kabhi to pta hi nahi paate, you know there is fierce competition 941 girls for every 1000 boys, before worrying about 59 boys who will be left out,

let me extend a helping hand to all those jo bus aah bhi karte hai to ho jaate hain badnam, aur wo katal bhi karte hain to charcha nahi hoti.

 Ladki patane se pehle you need to understand basic behavior pattern which is common among all girls jo maine barson se itni mehnat se seekha hai,aaj bata raha hun

1.You need to have spontaneous sense of humor, girls love this, you need to be spontaneous in pulling somebody’s legs (I didn’t mean that way!) in front of her, and she will really think you are smart whatever may be the reality.
2.Be flirtiest but after gauging the limit of the girl in front of you.( Go on IF the there are signals but start with

Tum aaj achi lag rahi ho!

Nice dress!!

Your earings are looking good (always remember accessories ki tariff karma bahut jaroori hai!)

Hey where did u bought this jeans from, you look good in this (and next time whenever she will pull the jeans from her almirah,you, you are the first person that will be flashed in her mind!)

Stare at her (in her eyes damid) for 10-12 seconds and smile for 3- 4 days & then for 2-3 days don’t give attention at all, look busy. ( This point is for throwing a questionnaire in her mind) Why did he look at me like this? He likes me? Ok, I wll wear this today! What happened, suddenly kya ho gaya hai usko, dekh bhi nahi raha? & so on.

Remember , Girls take time, they analyze you completely on following points before considering you

Looks: dressing sense, smartness, weather you both will look good together in public and her friend circle. Financials: salary (yes the take home not CTC) and you need to have strong finances for her to put you in the contender list.

Nod from her friends: Even if you are great, but lot of things depends what her friends think about you, you better be in their wish list too to make your girl feel that she is making right decision by choosing you as her friends shouldn’t get you. she consults with her friends more often.

& you need to be fun loving, caring, not asking about her friends, protective, romantic & so on & you thought it’s easy.

isliye don’t say to yourself after 2-3 meetings with girl, “yaar, I will marry her” because currently her observation & analysis mode is on.

Sometimes fake your emotions & tell her something that should sound personal “ pata nahi kyun, aaj man nahi lag raha ,akela lag raha hai, ne way hws life ( akela my foot!)

You should offer her anything that should make her find interest in you Gossips Movies Parties Personality

You need to show respect for her more often in public.

Gifts always make her interested depending on the amount you spend on gifts , but make sure you are doing investment not spends.

When you talk, always see in her eyes, this eye contact is very crucial. Girls always like to be attention seeker, so dare you give the same when demanded.

Don’t sound too much intellectual while in conversations, with the period of time you will be termed as boring or GOOD FRIEND.

With the mood swings, you also need to change your topics of discussions continuously, be on your toes.

TRY TO LEAD ALWAYS, do not depend on her to take calls Kahan jaayen aaj sham ko? (bloody u need to tell for suggestion aaj shaam ko Chinese khaane chalte hain ? Let’s go out on a trip this weekend

They seek approvals on whatever they do, be political & smart always. So guys, buck up, I have always believed that ki agar tum chaho to kisi bhi ladki ko pata sakte ho, you can really do her , be it anybody.

All they want is money, understanding, gifts, love, secure future ( car, flat), less spying, always praising whatever they do & so on……

All the best, rest in my next 

Vikas Sachdeva

We,Punjabi's

A relaxed Sunday evening, I am sitting at the same place, on a mattress in the hall with air crossing from the window, Love this time as it doesn’t allow the feeling of monday sinking in as it keeps me occupied with something i love, WRITING.

Last Time, sitting here, I mentioned in my last blog about few people in my life who have been a lifeline, no matter, how less we interact, meet but the only their existence makes me feel great.

Just went to my hometown to attend my cousin’s marriage in Punjab, a colorful, loud place where everybody has his/her own world & they want everybody to address their way, I have been born and brought up there ( with 3 yrs stint in Srinagar,kasmir!!) & have something to share about WE, PUNJABIS.

1. Punjabi’s are very loud, when they talk, no need of loudspeakers, we don’t need man made machines, our voices are enough even if we are not addressing a crowd, we speak in high tone.

2. Punjabi’s are very very emotional, though they try to cover up by high notes in voice and show they are not affected by any emotion, they are.

3. You dare not paying attention to them, they will hit you again and again and make sure they finish whatever intellectual they were saying and still they tell you “Samajh Gaya na”

4. A friend for life, you can blindly trust them, God has not given them thinking capabilities beyond a point so they will never harm if you are friend.

5.We only need parathas for lifetime just three times a day,Morning,Afternoon and Night & in between we can be served anything.

6. We are very uncomfortable eating Chinese food; Punjab has not given noodles the status of food.

7. When we are in love, we give and give and only give. We love so much that sometimes it becomes really mandatory for other person to literally ask for distance.

8. Punjabi’s are often found hurt either by someone’s comments or for not given the proper food at friend’s place.

9.If you are in trouble, tell a Punjabi, they will kill it to the core so bad that the concept of recarnation need to be abolished, but there is one problem, you need to tell them you are in problem.

10.Very expressive, all gussa and pyar you can see on their face clearly.



11. Some of the generally used lines by Punjabis.

Yaar Tu tension na le ( they repeat so many times that the other person really thinks that am I in tension)

Tu mera bhra hai & they hug you (they have so many brothers and sisters around the world!!)

Tu Ruk,Main btata hun( and you wait for your turn till they decide to go for sleep)


12. They have spontaneous raw sense of humor which you will love.

13. You are in the safest arms when they hug you.

14. Generally, They feel suffocated when they are put in intellectual discussions, so inspite of not knowing what the topic is, they make sure they are only heard.

15. We have our own world, either enter and adjust or else you will be kicked way.

16.You make food for them, they will love you forever for anything.

17. Punjabi’s don’t have high urge to earn money, all they need in life is big house, great clothes, a big car to flaunt in the town, same type of food, a beautiful wife/a gabru husband and we will happily die.

18. Punjabis know only two words Yes and No, the in between words to be handled by rest of the world.


19. Generally you will be found on receiving end, all the love and care or the heat, its upto your capabilities what you attract.

20. Very high on family values, You treat their family well, They will forget their own son/daughter and give you the importance which you have not imagined in your life.


I think, its enough now, there is enough in Punjabi’s to fall for.

People with extreme love

We, Punjabi’s.

Rest in my next blog.

Some important people in my life

Some important people in my life

I loved one friend’s status on facebook that “The more we are connecting electronically, the less we are becoming emotionally bonded.

The good thing facebook is doing that people are really expressing themselves on this platform as if they have got one close friend to share(Facebook has been kind of emotional support to many).

Coming back to real world from online world, we all share some special bonds with some people who have played/are playing a good role in our life..From childhood to wherever you are now, some people have been with you somehow & yes they are responsible for what you are today.

I also have few people who I just thought of mentioning today who have contributed directly or indirectly, helped me in thick and thin, making me what i am today and this is not a farewell speech but I just want to acknowledge & thank them, As I have learnt that everybody loves to read/know about themselves, just thought to write about few people, few important people in my life.

(Before you read in detail, the names are Lovely, Tejinder Singh, Neeraj Sharma, Manoj Shah, Amrisha and Abhishek, Swati, Mamta and Endee)

1. Lovely

It was the class 6^th to 8^th, this guy was not my friend but a threat. His roll number was next to me & I always ran away from him, I didnt know why I was so scared of him, I used to complete his assignments daily. My mom saw the growing tension on my face & one day I told her that this guy got all his assignments done by me regularly, Mom went to that guy’s house & blasted him in front of his mother. From then I was a free bird,

From him,I learnt the meaning of the word POWER.

2. Tejinder Singh

He was with me in my engineering days, He was a go getter, fearless, His home was just 30 km from my hometown, and we used to travel together on weekends. He would never stop, he was a solution provider.He was my best friend, whenever there used to be something wrong, I always used to go to him & he would leave everything to help me & take me out of the trouble. There I learnt friendship.

3. Neeraj Sharma

Oh God, I loved the energy he had, So much of positivism, so much exploration he had done, we are together for over 20 years now & the special bond I share with this guy is magical, We were friends earlier and somehow we were not in talking terms for years.Suddenly one fine day on some festival he came home , we sorted everything & then  this magical friendship resumed.

He went to Mumbai first & I used to see Mumbai from his eyes, the power this city had, Mumbai soon became a destination where I wanted to go. The great quality this guy has is the sense of humor & the timing, spontaneity which I have always enjoyed, also his sense of understanding of situations is great, what I have learnt from him is that exploring the world/people, care, unconditional love & sense of practicality of situations.

4. Manoj Shah

He was my senior in MBA college, my guide &  my mentor.Wherever I got stuck, he was there, The greatest quality I learnt from him to LISTEN, he is a great listener,he would hear you out completely & then give his opinion what he feels, not enforcing. He had a major impact in my MBA life in terms of how I used to think about people. A very special bond I share with him, very special, now also whenever there is something I need to talk about, He is the first person that comes to my mind.

Oh! fantastic sense of wittiness I learnt from him,Yes,Positive approach to life, On his scooty I used to roam around in Pune till I got bike.

5.Amrisha Srivastva and Abhishek Acharya

These are the people from whom I learnt new dimension of friendship, they brought a real change in me what I use to think about friendship, Care, Love that I got from them was great. Had I not met them, I would not have known what that dimension of friendship they taught me..Amrisha is a fighter & every time I hear line from Movie jab we met “ Main apni favorite hun” she comes to my mind,

She really used to love herself, a lot, and with abhishek I share a eternal connction as he is the only one to catch my filmy chemistry in the whole world, he used to display the same energy in acting or dialogues which anybody till now has not been able to.

6. Swati Bajpai

She is a wonderful soul i have met,  great respect as a person she commands from me, We met in our MBA college and rest is a history.

The more I know about her, the more excited I am. She taught me to live in present, very clear in her thoughts, her sense of understanding, the logicalisation she does, when we were in college, she was a partner not a demanding girlfriend, a down to earth human being. a fantastic sense of humor,a good singer & a good friend & above all the cuteness oh gosh is amazing. We fought a lot but one good thing was we knew that we had divine connection.

7. Mamta Ranasaria

A energy powerhouse, A philosopher, this human being is so pure with whatever she does. Purity is her strength. I met her in last leg of 2007, fascinated by her actions which she wanted all the time. I hadn’t met this kinds of powerhouses before, Passion, self pampering, exploration is the key this person has,

I saw myself evolving the more I interacted with her, one great thing I learnt and saw with her ( which I call page 3 world) were the parties, a new dimension, a new set of people in the various places in Mumbai. She broadened my horizon day by day & I was learning. Her spontaneity, sense of rationalism, emotions are one above normal people. I share a special bond with this lady and it’s beyond transactions. I have great respect for her for the way she is.PURE.

8. Endee Rampal

Came year 2014, I was doing some research about Lavasa online and i saw her photographs on FB staying in Lavasa. She was with me in my Welspun days and i didnt hesitate to ask her about Lavasa. .Whatever feedback she gave, i went to Lavasa and a new tale began.

She is a wonderful girl i have ever met till now, so warm and so pure just like mountain water. I met her in last few months in delhi and whenever i interact with her, i feel so much of connect. What i learnt from her is unconditional care and love without any layers. Further i like her elegant dressing sense and the way she carries herself. We create special moments between us and will cherish them forever.

There are many more who have influenced me in my life till now but above mentioned have added a new dimension in my life, I love them beyond boundaries.

Thanks for making me what I am today

Lots of love, hugs

Vikas sachdeva