your mother

Today is mother’s day, some times I really wonder the messages on facebook, SMSes, mails mentioning mother’s day are so high in number, do people really mean it or its just momentary ?

& we reply to those messages, like them and certainly agree with every line friends post.

How many of us have called our mother today in the morning & said “you are special”

Some people are lucky, they are together with their mother today in the same house while people like us who are out stationed are busy in our own schedules.


Just go back to your childhood, just visualize, your mother running after you with something in her hand running behind you to eat something?, giving you milk when you are back from school.

It was august 1990 when my Mom got a job, everybody was very happy, We all 3 kids were also happy not even knowing why we were excited ( I was then 8 yrs old, Vipul was 6 yrs old and Shelly was just crawling with 3 yrs under her belt)

Slowly things started changing, Mom cooking the food early in the morning at 5 am, putting the same in hot case, all house was empty at 8 am with all three of us in school and Papa by dropping all of us on his Bajaj Chetak and Mummy to school.

On returning, we generally found no body at home at around 2.30 pm, then taking food from hot case & eating without taste.

But financial condition was good, we were told to spend cautiously, value system was installed as it was hard earned money with lot of sweat and time that could have been given to us in the absence of school.


Mother’s are made to give, just sincerely look into her eyes & ask yourself, does she really need your money? Does she not happy with your accomplishments? Does she really interfere?

Yes, ways have changed and our thinking has changed, we really get panicky on being questioned a little extra. did you not ask same questions many times when you were kid and she responded the same no of times?

We generally think they don’t understand how much effort you have made in understanding them? Yes they live in small town and their thinking is limited to the area but you have come from that town only and it’s because of their sacrifices you are enjoying the uninterrupted life in Metros.




Parents have started getting intimidated from their own children

Wo kya sochega? Jaane do mat kaho use

Kahin bura na maan jaaye?


Kya zaroorat hai?


Friends, They really filter their feelings while speaking to us, they say those words only which only please us, sometime from your routine talks at home, just ask your mother , aur mummy aap khush ho na? Repeatedly saying this thing will really open her up and she will talk to her kid & confide.


At our age, Mother needs us more than we do; we really occupy ourselves with friends, movies, office and what about her? Her own friend for life is you!


Increase the frequency of calling in the day from just once at night of twice daily, this will make mom feel happy.

Always speak to your mom when you are lost, she will bail you out completely somehow or the other, god has given the powers to her, be it any emotional trap you are in.

You will always be kid to her, always, no matter how much you earn!


Just for a second imagine, people who have lost heir mom, what they are missing in life.


She doesn’t want anything from us, just our time which we have a lot for rest of the world, some daily conversations and care and affection.



Rest in my next blog


Vikas sachdeva

"Ladki kaise patayen"

A relaxed Sunday , with no work (as if I do work, huh!), Sahara sports awards on TV & I am alone in the house as swati has gone for her leisure trip (believe me girls love this word most- Leisure). While she must be enjoying the holidays with all the luxurious home made food , chaats & chatting, roaming around in the market entertaining lots of shopkeepers but pleasing only one or two as she will be buying from them in the quantities which they will like.

And me, yes me! Instead of looking out for some gorgeous beauties outside (its afternoon yaar!) spending time by waiting for the maid who will cook & help this brilliant personality (in case you don’t know who, its me!) can eat.

 In today’s blog, I want to help those poor chaps jo kaafi time laga dete hain ladki patane mein aur kabhi kabhi to pta hi nahi paate, you know there is fierce competition 941 girls for every 1000 boys, before worrying about 59 boys who will be left out,

let me extend a helping hand to all those jo bus aah bhi karte hai to ho jaate hain badnam, aur wo katal bhi karte hain to charcha nahi hoti.

 Ladki patane se pehle you need to understand basic behavior pattern which is common among all girls jo maine barson se itni mehnat se seekha hai,aaj bata raha hun

1.You need to have spontaneous sense of humor, girls love this, you need to be spontaneous in pulling somebody’s legs (I didn’t mean that way!) in front of her, and she will really think you are smart whatever may be the reality.
2.Be flirtiest but after gauging the limit of the girl in front of you.( Go on IF the there are signals but start with

Tum aaj achi lag rahi ho!

Nice dress!!

Your earings are looking good (always remember accessories ki tariff karma bahut jaroori hai!)

Hey where did u bought this jeans from, you look good in this (and next time whenever she will pull the jeans from her almirah,you, you are the first person that will be flashed in her mind!)

Stare at her (in her eyes damid) for 10-12 seconds and smile for 3- 4 days & then for 2-3 days don’t give attention at all, look busy. ( This point is for throwing a questionnaire in her mind) Why did he look at me like this? He likes me? Ok, I wll wear this today! What happened, suddenly kya ho gaya hai usko, dekh bhi nahi raha? & so on.

Remember , Girls take time, they analyze you completely on following points before considering you

Looks: dressing sense, smartness, weather you both will look good together in public and her friend circle. Financials: salary (yes the take home not CTC) and you need to have strong finances for her to put you in the contender list.

Nod from her friends: Even if you are great, but lot of things depends what her friends think about you, you better be in their wish list too to make your girl feel that she is making right decision by choosing you as her friends shouldn’t get you. she consults with her friends more often.

& you need to be fun loving, caring, not asking about her friends, protective, romantic & so on & you thought it’s easy.

isliye don’t say to yourself after 2-3 meetings with girl, “yaar, I will marry her” because currently her observation & analysis mode is on.

Sometimes fake your emotions & tell her something that should sound personal “ pata nahi kyun, aaj man nahi lag raha ,akela lag raha hai, ne way hws life ( akela my foot!)

You should offer her anything that should make her find interest in you Gossips Movies Parties Personality

You need to show respect for her more often in public.

Gifts always make her interested depending on the amount you spend on gifts , but make sure you are doing investment not spends.

When you talk, always see in her eyes, this eye contact is very crucial. Girls always like to be attention seeker, so dare you give the same when demanded.

Don’t sound too much intellectual while in conversations, with the period of time you will be termed as boring or GOOD FRIEND.

With the mood swings, you also need to change your topics of discussions continuously, be on your toes.

TRY TO LEAD ALWAYS, do not depend on her to take calls Kahan jaayen aaj sham ko? (bloody u need to tell for suggestion aaj shaam ko Chinese khaane chalte hain ? Let’s go out on a trip this weekend

They seek approvals on whatever they do, be political & smart always. So guys, buck up, I have always believed that ki agar tum chaho to kisi bhi ladki ko pata sakte ho, you can really do her , be it anybody.

All they want is money, understanding, gifts, love, secure future ( car, flat), less spying, always praising whatever they do & so on……

All the best, rest in my next 

Vikas Sachdeva

Power of Touch

Power of Touch & this is the only part which was missing in her life, I mean Kiran’s life, she had boyfriend Rakesh but in another city, phone calls, SMS were all there but yes the number was decreasing day by day.

 Then Akash entered her life as a friend, a good friend, lover and now husband. He played the game beautifully, just putting hand over her shoulder & saying, don’t worry I am there. Hugging when it mattered the most, soft slaps on her cheeks had become part of daily life,

she had started living her life with fresh air & her earlier boyfriend Rakesh was no where part of her life now.

By the way, Akash had also one beautiful girlfriend named Avani but again in another city, when she heard about Akash & his new venture, She really cried hard in front of me ( I was just a common friend between Akash and Avani) A Touch had changed Kiran” life, she was in need of that. Somebody who could pull her hair when she did any mistake, somebody to apply cream when her foot was hurt, somebody’s shoulders on which she can put her head in the night & close her eyes.

Everybody needs that touch, that love. A friend who can understand without uttering any word, by just looking into your eyes and saying I love holding hand together while walking in the night meaning I am there for you. In college I had one question & that was Why girls do so much of drama, kiddishness in front of guys,mujhe ye chahiye,…pls no….. you, movie chalen…..tell no……coffee at my place? & why it cant be I want this or lets go for movie , why this “no”. I was then enlightened by my friend Shweta, Girls do this so as they can get your attention, Pampering & I was satisfied with that answer to move on in my life.


when somebody is happy, Just put your shoulder around his neck & say I am happy for you,the entire life he will feel the same touch whenever he meets you. When somebody is feeling lonely ( & I am also including the scenes when you are surrounded by people & yet searching for someone) ,Just hold his hand & say Don’t worry,Main hoon na , chal lets go for small trip……oh boy, you know by holding the hand you have completed his life at that moment.

When someone is sad, look into his eyes and don’t say anything, just hear him out completely, & just be there.( beware don’t use the old lines, ye sabke saath hota hai,mere saath bhi hua & don’t start your own story) When somebody is crying, hug him hard, There is no harm in submission

Yes, we have to fight our battles by own self, Yes, We have different environments to cope with, Yes, we have different people to deal with. But yes, when you give that TOUCH to somebody, you have really arrived in his life, In a scenario where everybody is running a race, your touch will make people smile & you will get touch someday too!!

A relaxed Sunday morning, need to go to honor some touches (ooh la la!)


Rest in my next

Love you all

Vikas Sachdeva