Different Emotions & temporariness

It was 4 pm while I was sitting in office thinking about temporariness of everything, yesterday only a earthquake had shattered many lives in sikkim, few days earlier blasts in Mumbai took place killing and Injuring many. So there was nature and well as humans dictating the terms telling me don’t be sure of anything, it may change any moment.

When we are happy or sad, we tend to attribute whatever is happening to us  to some reason, some cause.

I suddenly heard   the  conversations  between  Fear, Love, Sadness, Attitude, Heart and Mind. Though they tried that they are not heard somehow I managed to sneak in.

Love was as usual funky singing the song in the canteen loudly  “ ye reshmi julphen , hye sharbati aankhein”…..he made sure he was heard, everybody was enjoying it, he was teasing sadness who was just sitting in the corner reading the report on blasts. She was introvert from her childhood but yet opportunist to get the attention whenever she required.

While heart was enjoying the song by Love, Mind was just busy in analyzing don’t know what, he was pretending that he is doing something genius and would make difference to rest of people sitting around.

Attitude and fear had gone to take some snacks for all of them, they all were part of a group, really pulling each other’s leg always showing the importance but not meaning it.

Fear was the smartest person  among  them, he knew when to speak and when to be silent.

One fine day, when they all were drunk,attitude thought of playing a game with all of them,he made teams, Fear with sadness( sady was too attractive for fear!!, saat janam saath rehne ki kasamein khaa lit hi jaise),Love and heart ( amitabh and dhamendra in modern sholday!!) and he had himself paired up with Mind.attitude always had a respect for mind for his skills( Sachin and dravid)

They started playing  game  “ Truth or dare” whereby rotating the bottle depending on its direction one has to choose between truth and dare”

Bottle started spinning, first it stopped at love and heart team.

Truth or Dare, attitude asked!!

“Dare “shouted Heart (Love was clueless why why on the earth Heart did this!)

Attitude said “Go and speard yourself in all conditions, circumstances”

Love was clueless; he had to do what his teammate heart had put him into.

Love started being present in all conditions, for the starting phase he enjoyed the limelight, with time, he started to feel the pinch, since he was not able to be present all the time, he started pretending.

HE HAD TO BE GENINUINE WHEREVER NEEDED AND PRETENDING WHERE THERE  WAS  A NEED.

As a result, Heart was happy when he found love acting true to itself and sad when pretending.

Bottle started rolling again and it was fear and sadness’s turn

Sadness who always was introvert spoke” truth”!

Amazed by this action, Mind really clapped!

Mind said” you both Fear and sadness have to be together ( fear was happy ) and you cannot pretend, but we will have control over you, I appoint Love as observer.

Fear was stronger of the two, he told to sadness” let me do my work, I will make people weak, I wil force them to think again & again, I will control them, sadness who could hear the devilishness of fear was not in agreement, she didn’t like what fear was doing, she decided to play separately.

Next was the turn of Mind and Attitude, being the eldest, they were controlling Love, Heart, fear and sadness so as they can come in phases and turn by turn, their job was to not to allow anybody dominate.

THEY MADE SURE ALL EMOTIONS WERE TEMPORARILY PLAYING THEIR ROLE.

Suddenly I woke up, wondering what these emotions were up to and why did I hear their conversation! But somehow I really loved the characterization of these emotions!

But I had found my answer, Role of each emotion, and TEMPORARINESS.

Rest in my next blog, Happy Reading!

Vikas Sachdeva

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your mother

Today is mother’s day, some times I really wonder the messages on facebook, SMSes, mails mentioning mother’s day are so high in number, do people really mean it or its just momentary ?

& we reply to those messages, like them and certainly agree with every line friends post.

How many of us have called our mother today in the morning & said “you are special”

Some people are lucky, they are together with their mother today in the same house while people like us who are out stationed are busy in our own schedules.


Just go back to your childhood, just visualize, your mother running after you with something in her hand running behind you to eat something?, giving you milk when you are back from school.

It was august 1990 when my Mom got a job, everybody was very happy, We all 3 kids were also happy not even knowing why we were excited ( I was then 8 yrs old, Vipul was 6 yrs old and Shelly was just crawling with 3 yrs under her belt)

Slowly things started changing, Mom cooking the food early in the morning at 5 am, putting the same in hot case, all house was empty at 8 am with all three of us in school and Papa by dropping all of us on his Bajaj Chetak and Mummy to school.

On returning, we generally found no body at home at around 2.30 pm, then taking food from hot case & eating without taste.

But financial condition was good, we were told to spend cautiously, value system was installed as it was hard earned money with lot of sweat and time that could have been given to us in the absence of school.


Mother’s are made to give, just sincerely look into her eyes & ask yourself, does she really need your money? Does she not happy with your accomplishments? Does she really interfere?

Yes, ways have changed and our thinking has changed, we really get panicky on being questioned a little extra. did you not ask same questions many times when you were kid and she responded the same no of times?

We generally think they don’t understand how much effort you have made in understanding them? Yes they live in small town and their thinking is limited to the area but you have come from that town only and it’s because of their sacrifices you are enjoying the uninterrupted life in Metros.




Parents have started getting intimidated from their own children

Wo kya sochega? Jaane do mat kaho use

Kahin bura na maan jaaye?


Kya zaroorat hai?


Friends, They really filter their feelings while speaking to us, they say those words only which only please us, sometime from your routine talks at home, just ask your mother , aur mummy aap khush ho na? Repeatedly saying this thing will really open her up and she will talk to her kid & confide.


At our age, Mother needs us more than we do; we really occupy ourselves with friends, movies, office and what about her? Her own friend for life is you!


Increase the frequency of calling in the day from just once at night of twice daily, this will make mom feel happy.

Always speak to your mom when you are lost, she will bail you out completely somehow or the other, god has given the powers to her, be it any emotional trap you are in.

You will always be kid to her, always, no matter how much you earn!


Just for a second imagine, people who have lost heir mom, what they are missing in life.


She doesn’t want anything from us, just our time which we have a lot for rest of the world, some daily conversations and care and affection.



Rest in my next blog


Vikas sachdeva

"Ladki kaise patayen"

A relaxed Sunday , with no work (as if I do work, huh!), Sahara sports awards on TV & I am alone in the house as swati has gone for her leisure trip (believe me girls love this word most- Leisure). While she must be enjoying the holidays with all the luxurious home made food , chaats & chatting, roaming around in the market entertaining lots of shopkeepers but pleasing only one or two as she will be buying from them in the quantities which they will like.

And me, yes me! Instead of looking out for some gorgeous beauties outside (its afternoon yaar!) spending time by waiting for the maid who will cook & help this brilliant personality (in case you don’t know who, its me!) can eat.

 In today’s blog, I want to help those poor chaps jo kaafi time laga dete hain ladki patane mein aur kabhi kabhi to pta hi nahi paate, you know there is fierce competition 941 girls for every 1000 boys, before worrying about 59 boys who will be left out,

let me extend a helping hand to all those jo bus aah bhi karte hai to ho jaate hain badnam, aur wo katal bhi karte hain to charcha nahi hoti.

 Ladki patane se pehle you need to understand basic behavior pattern which is common among all girls jo maine barson se itni mehnat se seekha hai,aaj bata raha hun

1.You need to have spontaneous sense of humor, girls love this, you need to be spontaneous in pulling somebody’s legs (I didn’t mean that way!) in front of her, and she will really think you are smart whatever may be the reality.
2.Be flirtiest but after gauging the limit of the girl in front of you.( Go on IF the there are signals but start with

Tum aaj achi lag rahi ho!

Nice dress!!

Your earings are looking good (always remember accessories ki tariff karma bahut jaroori hai!)

Hey where did u bought this jeans from, you look good in this (and next time whenever she will pull the jeans from her almirah,you, you are the first person that will be flashed in her mind!)

Stare at her (in her eyes damid) for 10-12 seconds and smile for 3- 4 days & then for 2-3 days don’t give attention at all, look busy. ( This point is for throwing a questionnaire in her mind) Why did he look at me like this? He likes me? Ok, I wll wear this today! What happened, suddenly kya ho gaya hai usko, dekh bhi nahi raha? & so on.

Remember , Girls take time, they analyze you completely on following points before considering you

Looks: dressing sense, smartness, weather you both will look good together in public and her friend circle. Financials: salary (yes the take home not CTC) and you need to have strong finances for her to put you in the contender list.

Nod from her friends: Even if you are great, but lot of things depends what her friends think about you, you better be in their wish list too to make your girl feel that she is making right decision by choosing you as her friends shouldn’t get you. she consults with her friends more often.

& you need to be fun loving, caring, not asking about her friends, protective, romantic & so on & you thought it’s easy.

isliye don’t say to yourself after 2-3 meetings with girl, “yaar, I will marry her” because currently her observation & analysis mode is on.

Sometimes fake your emotions & tell her something that should sound personal “ pata nahi kyun, aaj man nahi lag raha ,akela lag raha hai, ne way hws life ( akela my foot!)

You should offer her anything that should make her find interest in you Gossips Movies Parties Personality

You need to show respect for her more often in public.

Gifts always make her interested depending on the amount you spend on gifts , but make sure you are doing investment not spends.

When you talk, always see in her eyes, this eye contact is very crucial. Girls always like to be attention seeker, so dare you give the same when demanded.

Don’t sound too much intellectual while in conversations, with the period of time you will be termed as boring or GOOD FRIEND.

With the mood swings, you also need to change your topics of discussions continuously, be on your toes.

TRY TO LEAD ALWAYS, do not depend on her to take calls Kahan jaayen aaj sham ko? (bloody u need to tell for suggestion aaj shaam ko Chinese khaane chalte hain ? Let’s go out on a trip this weekend

They seek approvals on whatever they do, be political & smart always. So guys, buck up, I have always believed that ki agar tum chaho to kisi bhi ladki ko pata sakte ho, you can really do her , be it anybody.

All they want is money, understanding, gifts, love, secure future ( car, flat), less spying, always praising whatever they do & so on……

All the best, rest in my next 

Vikas Sachdeva