control freaks

I was Standing at Andheri Bridge wating for the Light to turn green,means signalling that i have a control on my bike that i can pass through.....I have the right to control the direction of my bike....people were walking by....there was a crowd...a real crowd in hurry to pass...hurry to move ahead in race....the race of life......I saw mother & a kid walking...Mother was holding his hand & he was just running....his pace was controlled by his mother's speed of walking...he cud only save himself from any obstacles on the road but he was not in postion to control his speed.....

A thought came into my mind.........

Control.....the habit of keeping/moving things as per your speed......Many people in life u meet are control freaks.....They love to dictate...they love to dominate...They use words like : "I will tell you" rather than "Lets discuss".....You do it like this only rather than "This can be done in other way also"...Love me rather than I love you...& so on....

People will really love when u ask them ( even if you know he/she will not respond as per your expectation).....What do you think about this subject.....I have tried but.....need your opinion......I am feeling like going to movie/coffee shop,what do u say....?.......These are very small things ...but really work....It really Means YOU ARE REALLY GIVING THEM CONTROL OF THE SITUATION....THE MORE YOU YOU THE MORE YOU WILL BE RESPECTED & ACCEPTED & PEOPLE WILL OPEN ...
UP.....

But it does mean that you do it always.....its just that opinions are often valued more than orders....

Professionaly,If you see,The personal Chracatherstics are driving the business/function......if the CEO is good,postive,has all capabilties of driving the people & processes,the business will grow...if the HOD is egoistic or say personal intrests are more important than work intrests/team intrests/business intrests....then that function slowly be a liabilty than asset....


Over a period of last one year, I have realised is that Work is all about People management ( its not as simple as the word says but yes!!)....you are not doing work yourself but getting it done from people.,....so managing various personalties.....so if we have CONTROL over this.....the chances of going ahead in life are more....since we spend more time in offices than at our home......

So,lets try not to be control freaks ....i read in my north zone office: Strengeth Respects Strength.......


cheers


vikas sachdeva

people and friends around

People Around


Aaaah!!! .......is anybody there.....!!...I just heard the voice when i entered her room,I ran & saw she was crying...i was trying my best to make her comfortable,After some time ( which was the only option),she was silent,not talking to me & just looking down & thinking & thinking deep!


I just managed to ask her weather she had breakfast & sucessfully i got an answer also NO....I boiled eggs & put them in bread ( That was the best i cud do with my limited abilties in kitchen).......She ate silently ....i said nothg....i was looking at her.....suddenly..she started....I am full with people but I m still empty,dont know ,what i need from people around but they make me happy for duration not complete.( i for the first time started understanding the meaning of loneliness)......

she always told me that the she was having great friends around but where were they?

She met me via internet chat on yahoo messanger....& we got closer as we started spending more time on chat...We were great friends......& suddenly she disappeared ......& just got to know that she is settled in US....I was happy!


I always thank my friend circle from my enginnering college who really made me what i m today.They used to discuss MBA,career,Job,Big Companies.My thinking was also getting into those & not a small btech job in a smaller firm.I started thinking of doing MBA.

The point is Apart from who we are,we are also groomed a lot by the peple around,both good or bad.

I always have fun with a bunch of people arround,laughing & my idea of enjoyment ( at that time ) is to sit,chat,leg pulling,making witty comments & be a part of that group not by shouting.

My Mom use to say one thing,the way u are,u will always find similar people of ur likliness sooner or later,if u r shrabi,then u will evetually find a company who drinks!

I learnt!

I learnt from a person who was 24 hrs with me except Toilets in engineering that no matter whatever comes,we will navigate!

Every day we come across so many people.

while we were leaving our engineering college,I had a view that people come & go ( dont take me in negative sense which is big problem,I m often misunderstood & sound detached) & we have to move on.By that i didnt mean that as a friend ur role is over but what i meant was we have served a purpose here & lets not affcat our lives by thinking unnessary about past.

A voice came & said : people come & go & we have to move on but some people stay.

She was very loud & clear & then we never met & i heard this statement from many people.

I learnt!


The good thing was with every experince,i was learning.but one belief was getting stronger,The people around you really matter!...who really share your thinking!


We have to be stronger emotionally just searching for other means when we are not ourselves.We have to be engaged in smothg or other,keep doing something.


If we see arround,there is lot positivity,happiness,people around.just wating for you to grab them.


Cheers!!!.....


Gyan thoughts


Vikas sachdeva