Live in relationship

Live- in relationships, what a cool term it is! Boy and girl living together without marriage in the same apartment, sharing food, expenses, togetherness,, emotions, coziness!! And above all greatest part “NO COMMITMENT”

I witnessed this in my college time, when two dearest friends of mine eventually started living together, I was amazed, coming from a small town, where even shaking hand with stranger girl being looked at, interrogated and declared your girlfriend!! (Don’t remember how many GFs I had by that standards!!)

I can’t experience Live in relationships now and that’s why I decided to Pen it down! (Shit! Shit Shit!)

People have different opinion about “Live in”. Old school of thought says it’s a big No No, how can two unmarried people stay together (as if marriage is the Punch card designed by them to enter the house)

And people of my generation say it’s a big yes, who bloody who want to miss out the benefits of staying together yet no commitment (No, I didn’t mean sex only but all needs without paying big price!)

I am seeing this trend of “Live ins” will grow in india and it will grow multifold.

The rate at which students/working people are leaving their hometowns for better job is phenomenal. They live in suitcases travelling city by city.

Here are few points why I thought they will grow:

Sense of comfort with opposite sex

Girls have more male friends these days vs their own type ( weird type). They see more sense of comfort with opposite sex as they fulfill their needs of pampering, spending, emotional support, non jealousness part time physical needs ( don’t underestimate power of part time physical needs like hugging, kissing, cozying etc, it’s the major draw when two are attracted towards each other, Power of touch as per my earlier blog u see!!)

Similarly Males love to have more girls in their groups (and in private too!!); it gives them chance to display their emotional side, stability, no competition who will take away that particular girl and yes sense of comfort.

Both leading to acknowledge they can stay together.

No parents watching…shhhshhh

We youth (I am included in youth, just because I am writing this blog doesn’t mean otherwise, huh)

 When being watched upon, hate it man hate it, since childhood, we have been directed to do things as per parents wish We people wating for the right time( soldiers wating to fire,dhikchoon) ( when we will leave for study/work we will do this and that and most dream about booze, smoke only)

So when we get a chance to fly (I mean out of home) , our to do things list flashes. First comes to mind is freedom, if some home broker tells you that there is no house available at your budget and in case u want to live in good flat, you have to share it with a girl/guy( you will have seprate room) beyond a point, u will say ok ( its not easy, but trends are increasing)

Trying Dummy marriage

Most of us like to try things out, so why not “live ins’ . If one gets opportunity to try dummy marriage (this is the excuse given by most to get in to Live ins)

·         You have to share expenses so no chic chic with another girl

·         You have to handle minor version of expectations of fulfilling all your responsibities as a roommate.

·         All cheap works like bills payment, electricity, getting appliances corrected will be done asap

·         Occasional cooking will be done by the girl with complete ground work done by the guy.

Some needs fulfilled

When a boy and girl start living together ( in Live ins) Unintentionally they satisfy some needs of each other, sense of belongingness, care, responsibities, equality, protectiveness for a girl, stability for a guy, and  a different relationship starts building which doesn’t have boundaries, expectations, freedom , experimentations, bonding.

Future is fast paced, with aspirations rising high and high, convenience becoming priority, and more and more emotional support required by the males and females, This trend will grow and will find acceptance in society.

And inspite of being away from home from last 12 years, I was not able to experience this relationship, I am sad L

Rest in my next blog

Vikas sachdeva