Once upon a time in ONIDA

Once upon a time in ONIDA

I had always believed that everyone serves a purpose in your life, weather you acknowledge it or not!! Today my blog is not a blog, its  a small story, it’s a real story of 7 people working in ONIDA.

Vikas, Jitu, Pooja, Sameer, Lalit, Amrisha and Sudhir.

Some time in mid feb of 2006, I got to know that I was selected for ONIDA, I had mixed emotions, I didn’t knew, how to react, it was my first job, I hadn’t worked before.

14^th April, 2006 was my first day in office, corporate headquarters of ONIDA ( seemed like its army headquarters), People were looking at me with weirdness as if I have sent proposal to marry their daughters.

But to my luck and their disappointment, it was not the case, As I saw my appointment letter again some bold letters shouted “ Executive-SCM”….. I checked it again, it was the same, I thought why I am being put in SCM being MBA in marketing, then I cursed my engineering background, I had made up my mind, I will leave the organization soon or I will demand right role for me.

The solider ( me!!) went to HR and asked” I want to get role in marketing” , with a gabbar smile and political correctedness , HR replied “ it will be done in sometime”

Luckily that “Sometime” lasted for 15 days , and I was put in Strategic Marketing Project “ On Idea”

I was on top of the world  , the animals that we read in the classrooms with one eyes on girls in classroom were coming true.

Branding, market share, presentations, these words entered my world. I suddenly went into my dreamy world of becoming VP Marketing in just 3 weeks of joining.

It was declared that a girl named “ Pooja”  will also be there in the project, I met her don’t know when, A very simple girl from Chandigarh ( my dream city then).

Queen of Pjs ( read Pjs raised to power of n) were her strength, you could expect anything from her, sometime I used to wonder is it a talent or natural characteristic?

An example which I will never forget in my lifetime is when I asked her “ Chalen” ……she replied “ Chane to main khaa kar aayi hun…… I was speechless on the reply….it haunted me till ages in my dreams …..how can somebody repliy this……..

Then I was able see the other side of this amazing girl, the understanding, caring part ….and also what I liked was the authority with which she used to deal with me……I had found a very good friend in her……we went together to many trips to Bangalore, did researches together, without any blink of an eye, she was matching with my pace.

She knew astrology, which always has fascinated me , not the curiosity of knowing future, but science itself, I always requested her to see my palm and tell, and she always used to do the same. I used to witness the changing structure of lines on my palm, like a kid I used to run and ask her “ what does this mean now” and with smile I used to get the answer.

Now too, whenever accidently  I see my palm, I remember her.

Time was running like a horse, I don’t know when a group was formed, a bunch of different people with different backgrounds,

Vikas, Jitu, Pooja, Sameer, Lalit, Amrisha and Sudhir.

While I knew Lalit and Amrisha from my college time as we were batch mates, Jitu ,Sameer and sudhir were new animals to me.

Jitu was the kinds I observed was most helping guy I have met, with these helping characteristics he was father figure in the group, his verdict used to be final, if he declared that we will go to this place in the eve, nobody used to vindicate his lines. i learnt power of politeness from him, and art of loving people, no matter what other thought…

He was always right, liked, loved ( among females too but due to his fatherly status, every girl looked at him as good friend, so all hopes of flirting would go in vain even if he wanted to try). Wish had I grown up more than him at that time, I would have pleaded to any girl he liked to become his girlfriend.

With the hopes that that he will lose his elderly skills and wishing that he will go to a pub and request the bartender “ a drink for a lady sitting next to me “ but it didn’t happen …I wanted him to be shahrukh but he was happy being Sanjeev kumar.

Then there was guy “ Sameer” ……as light as air, in lunch time, he used to come in and used to sit next to my seat for a while before leaving for his building as he was sitting under different roof.

A day dreamer ( and night dreamer also), fun loving, easily adjustable person, a talent to understand quick humor was there in him, he had two agendas in life

1.       To leave onida as soon as possible

2.       Telling Point no 1 to each and everyone in the group thousand of times.

A emotional, true hearted guy with lots of unclear dreams ( still not abt any girl!!) , a go getter with lots of laziness, I always knew he will be good fun when drunk.

Then there was silent and invisible man “ Sudhir”……I really used to like him ( not that way!, I had clear cut interest in girls who were exciting, fun loving) ……..i was amazed at his soft spoken nature…he was clear it seemed to me ……one thing I really liked about him “ his choice of days when he will drink and when he will not” and with whom.

I always knew he had hidden characteristics, very deep and shy.

Lalit and amrisha were from my college, lalit was younger brother to elderly jitu, next to father figure, always thinking what will happen next, but very planned, calculative emotional good guy to hang out with, he was the one who introduced alcohol to me in college time, then after showing me the path of wisdom , he took another path.

I always used to tease him” yaar teri biwi bahut sunder hogi” …..and he used to repel and I used to wonder why “ achi baat hi to bol raha hun”

He taught me meaning of planned savings, calling multiple times at home.

Amrisha ke bare mein jitna kam kaha jaaye utna jada hai, a deep understanding figure, only few could understood her laughter! Chirpiness was her strength.

As camera of life was rolling on we had our won differences in the group with all taking their own misconceptions for a longer duration.

We had stopped facing each other!

Even summer trainee “ kajal” could help us talk beyond a point, me and Sameer were faking astrology to kajal that she has split personality, she looked serious ….and then we laughed, but we had a message that don’t look sad, share your life with us ,I still have sher written by her with me on a paper

“ Maloom hai mujhe nahi mumkin tera mujhe milna, phir bhi har ghadi mujhe tera intezaar rehta hai”

We all parted in sometime in our destiny, Pooja left ONIDA , I didn’t like it as I was so used to her, then I left and then all I don’t remember.

I was always accused to not calling, I got busy in my own life, with longer durations, I used to fear what will they think if I call them ( this is for Pooja and lalit)

I was very much in touch with jitu and Sameer!

I was part of many great people in my journey of life then but this one group remained special.

I am sure sometime we just require a hug to forget all bad memories and revive new relationship with same people, A big Hug to you all, lots of love

Rest in my next

Vikas sachdeva

Live in relationship

Live- in relationships, what a cool term it is! Boy and girl living together without marriage in the same apartment, sharing food, expenses, togetherness,, emotions, coziness!! And above all greatest part “NO COMMITMENT”

I witnessed this in my college time, when two dearest friends of mine eventually started living together, I was amazed, coming from a small town, where even shaking hand with stranger girl being looked at, interrogated and declared your girlfriend!! (Don’t remember how many GFs I had by that standards!!)

I can’t experience Live in relationships now and that’s why I decided to Pen it down! (Shit! Shit Shit!)

People have different opinion about “Live in”. Old school of thought says it’s a big No No, how can two unmarried people stay together (as if marriage is the Punch card designed by them to enter the house)

And people of my generation say it’s a big yes, who bloody who want to miss out the benefits of staying together yet no commitment (No, I didn’t mean sex only but all needs without paying big price!)

I am seeing this trend of “Live ins” will grow in india and it will grow multifold.

The rate at which students/working people are leaving their hometowns for better job is phenomenal. They live in suitcases travelling city by city.

Here are few points why I thought they will grow:

Sense of comfort with opposite sex

Girls have more male friends these days vs their own type ( weird type). They see more sense of comfort with opposite sex as they fulfill their needs of pampering, spending, emotional support, non jealousness part time physical needs ( don’t underestimate power of part time physical needs like hugging, kissing, cozying etc, it’s the major draw when two are attracted towards each other, Power of touch as per my earlier blog u see!!)

Similarly Males love to have more girls in their groups (and in private too!!); it gives them chance to display their emotional side, stability, no competition who will take away that particular girl and yes sense of comfort.

Both leading to acknowledge they can stay together.

No parents watching…shhhshhh

We youth (I am included in youth, just because I am writing this blog doesn’t mean otherwise, huh)

 When being watched upon, hate it man hate it, since childhood, we have been directed to do things as per parents wish We people wating for the right time( soldiers wating to fire,dhikchoon) ( when we will leave for study/work we will do this and that and most dream about booze, smoke only)

So when we get a chance to fly (I mean out of home) , our to do things list flashes. First comes to mind is freedom, if some home broker tells you that there is no house available at your budget and in case u want to live in good flat, you have to share it with a girl/guy( you will have seprate room) beyond a point, u will say ok ( its not easy, but trends are increasing)

Trying Dummy marriage

Most of us like to try things out, so why not “live ins’ . If one gets opportunity to try dummy marriage (this is the excuse given by most to get in to Live ins)

·         You have to share expenses so no chic chic with another girl

·         You have to handle minor version of expectations of fulfilling all your responsibities as a roommate.

·         All cheap works like bills payment, electricity, getting appliances corrected will be done asap

·         Occasional cooking will be done by the girl with complete ground work done by the guy.

Some needs fulfilled

When a boy and girl start living together ( in Live ins) Unintentionally they satisfy some needs of each other, sense of belongingness, care, responsibities, equality, protectiveness for a girl, stability for a guy, and  a different relationship starts building which doesn’t have boundaries, expectations, freedom , experimentations, bonding.

Future is fast paced, with aspirations rising high and high, convenience becoming priority, and more and more emotional support required by the males and females, This trend will grow and will find acceptance in society.

And inspite of being away from home from last 12 years, I was not able to experience this relationship, I am sad L

Rest in my next blog

Vikas sachdeva

Changing Movie watching experience

I was just going from Mumbai to Pune on some weekend, sitting by the window seat in a AC Volvo bus, I was feeling comfortable thinking how I will spend next 4 hours.

Wishing that next seat should be occupied a sexy girl and we strike conversations on love, romance and end up meeting every week, my dream was shattered when a cool looking hunk sat next to me with iPod in his ear and then he started opening his bag and took out a small media player double the size of our mobile phone.

Looking at his richness, I alarmed myself not to get into any inferiority complex as I had always believed that girls really like simple, genuine guys (like me!!) than hunks for the long term.

Working on self laid philosophy, I was about to enter my dreamy world and then I witnessed that guy sitting next to me was watching a Hollywood movie on his gadget.

Then I did what I do very rarely, I started thinking:

In 80’s we had B/W TV with two gates on its screen giving it a royal opening, After power button was pressed, This TV demanded lot of attention being the only source of entertainment, so acting pricey, B/W TV use to take lot of time to fill the area on the screen with voice cords followed later.

DD-1 being the only one performing at that time, there were limited programs like Chitrahar, Rangoli and the best part “Hindi feature films without commercials”

Remote hadn’t taken birth by then, so manual tuning was only done to get the clarity in picture, and if not satisfied, then we used to go to top to change the position of antenna with changing its directions like giving signals on the border that we will not leave the war!

Then the era changed, with the salaries increasing, there came introduction of “Color TVs”, rest antenna at home roof being constantly guiding!

The homes which didn’t had color tvs were being looked at with pity as with the assumption that they can’t afford the New animal “Color TV”

Rangoli, Chitrahar became more popular, people were able to recognize their fav actors clothes, they started relating to them , People started following actors, their dressing sense, styling.

Then came the era of cable TV, now this monster had changed lives of many, more options, more channels, people were able to see many programs, movies basis their preference.

With more programs, People started expressing their emotional side via characters in the programs, emotions like love, and romance found elaborations in young hearts.

Being living in conservative society, still youngsters were not able to view the programs (read adult programs) as there used be one TV and that too be watched with the family.

That led to invention of VCR, a era of private viewing, so people could watch movies of their choice, mainly VCR was available on rent model, (Many choose to buy that device so as they could see all the love making scences and tell the world that they are the ones who need most love by opposite sex.)

VCRs got replaced by CDs, More compact, handy CD players helped movie watching experience to a great level.

Single screen cinemas used to co exist struggling to find their place as people used to watch movies at home saving lot of money by not going to theater.  (here I am not talking about young couples, married and unmarried, who used to book boxes in these cinema halls and watching movie was not at all given importance in hall but something else!)

With the more no of movies releasing per year, there was need to make multi screen cinemas to give people choice of movies and convenience of choosing the subject.( like I always like romantic flicks and other people liked action, comedy, horror etc and I had no problems with that!!)

Back home Color TV was feeling all alone, then in anger he decided to change himself, he was new rajnikant who will kill all the boredom from people’s life, he started praying, lord shiva got happy and converted him into LCDs, LEDs.

He had now great picture clarity, sound, he was status symbol, he broke the barriers on getting himself confined to a cabinet, he now clings to the wall like Jesus, the god.

With TV being inventing himself, multi screen cinema halls, personal viewing need is increasing now, ipads, ipods and don’t know many more will come to fulfill this need. (thanks to Maslow, hadn’t he told us about our need structure, we would have been happy in closed room only)

Laptops, desktops are more used for viewing movies than computing work.

Aundh, Aundh,the conductor shouted, the bus had reached pune.

I was wondering where I will watch my next movie, PVR, laptop or DVD??

And yes, one day, seat next to me there will be sexy girl!

Rest in my next blog,

Vikas sachdeva

Something!

Something!

Sometimes from the outset , when we see everything  as a outsider, Things look really shining, everything picture perfect and believe me it’s actually great to be in that state!

But sometimes some days you miss something! When somebody asks you what is missing, you don’t have answer!

One of the part is when you share this people around, they think something wrong has happened with this guy, or he is sad or he is thinking too much but actually it may not be the case. You can miss that something even you are at your happiest page since you don’t know what you are missing.

I am missing the following at the moment:

1.  A long laughter which has got a shadow now these days

2. A month long holidays of school when I used to finish homework in first 10 days and then play for 20 days.

3. A bunch of different friend groups in engineering which I was part of from morning walk friends to late night sms friends.

4. Lot of positive energy

5. Unnecessary spending in the mall

6. My bollywood spoofs which I use to write and act

7. Sleep till 9.30 in the morning everyday

8. Two foreigner friends (one girl and one boy)

9.  Self Belief that I can do

10.  Bike driving to lonavala with a bunch of friends

11. A midnight coffee at chandni chowk,Pune

12. Sitting next to NDA gate at 1 am

I am sure I will get all I mentioned above all over again!

Vikas sachdeva

Guy's talk

This is not a fantasy blog, all characters are fictitious and have no resemblance to any person dead or living, This is an attempt to share some common happenings:

1.       Just observe, when two couples meet, boys always look to other girl and yes they scan her top to bottom while girls look at each other looking at what the other is wearing, looking pretty or not, who is superior!

2.       In smaller towns the word “ Aur aap batao” is repeated endlessly till people get some topic to discuss or blame.

3.       In marriages in north, even on chilly nights, girls are comfortable wearing normal suits till they suspect at least somebody is looking at them, Once this assumption is nullified, they start feeling cold.

4.       Every Beautiful girl is considered someone’s bhabhi in boys group and everybody claims to be her husband without even a single blink by the girl.

5.       Hands and eyes are glued on the mobile after sending the message to anybody and any blink/Tone is assumed his/her reply.

6.       Normally when two girls are walking and talking, The talk is generally about a guy who is trying to woo her and she claiming she is not interested!

7.       While riding a two wheeler with a girl on the back, the girl in the car coming from the front always stares at you and you feel good!

8.       The best way to “Patao” a girl in Pubs is just continuous looking at her and then ignoring her.

9.       Going to a mall with girl and choosing a dress from that mall and BUYING from that mall without exploring all possibilities in rest of the malls is a crime.

10.   Just say “you are sad” the entire world will come to ask you “why” making you more sad.

11.   By pressing “like” button doesn’t always mean that you really liked the comment, People have liked comments also “I attended uncle’s  funeral”

12.   A research shows girls are 5 times more excited during kissing….and indeed a lot of time is wasted persuading her to let her kiss and yes I want to be that researcher.

13.   You have more friends if you always pay.

14.   You cant avoid,your day will start with Shampoo, conditioner, face wash, Body wash and look at the final product out of the bathroom, just the same as it was yesterday!

15.   Many times I have said Flirting is an art, it is about compliments, spending money endlessly on a girl and talking ( only talking) about Love and assuming that she really likes you.

16.   Love is directly proportional to frequency and amount on each gift you give to a girl and assuming she is getting it from you only even if you managed to sneak in her room ( lucky!) and see many gifts from other boys,apart from you and in front of you they all will be from friends.

Hope it made you smile!

Rest in next blog

Vikas sachdeva

Talking to a stranger

It’s the Saturday afternoon and I am waiting for the evening to come so as this heat stop bothering me with its ability.

While surfing the TV channels, I just recalled something, something very strange but true. I recalled an incident when while boarding bus to Bathinda on early Monday morning, 

A voice came “You also study at Giani zail singh college of engineering and technology bathinda na” …to my amazed eyes, she responded “ I am in architecture stream and you”….Mechanical was my answer ( with a proud that I will pass out in 4 yrs and you in 5 yrs as course demanded 5 yrs)

Then the bus started, with heavy head on Monday mornings because of separation from home and fear of classes immediate after reaching Bathinda!

With few minutes of silence, suddenly she started “I have observed you, you always go by this bus na”

I said “Yes” (from then I have made it a practice to say yes to everything to a girl, it helps!)

Don’t know what happened, after few normal lines, she spoke

“Mere mummy papa meri shadi ke liye soch rahe hain, par main shadi nahi karna chahati, mera abhi 3^rd year hai, 2 saal ke baad I will be architect and I want to work, I have dreams but……” and then she went on sharing and I was listening with full energy…..

And few more incidents like this thought finally, sometimes it is easy to talk/confess to a stranger than family and friends because:

1. A known Stranger doesn’t hold any expectations from you, so you go on freely.
2. He/ She is not biased as he/she doesn’t know any background.
3. He/she provides sense of comfort( not necessarily all, but a known stranger)
4. When you are venting your heart out, he/she is clueless so no fear if he/she will tell anybody.
5. You also don’t expect any solution/great response from him/her so you go in a flow.
6. Have you ever wondered, our journey’s in trains, long hours, unknown people talking so comfortably ( Travel to Punjab sometime in train, they will tell about history & geography of their family and yes not to forget any eligible bachelor daughter for their daughter/son?)
7. When you are full with emotions, you don’t care the repercussions of sharing.
8. Sometime you get friend of life while sharing.( I have one friend I have never met him, he is in dubai but the bond we share awesome)

It all happens SOMETIME, so when angry try talking to known stranger! I hope you know “who known stranger is”

Vikas Sachdeva

Video Game

During my assignment at Future Group, one day I asked him spontaneously “ Tell me what I need to do to improve my work, these ads, plans are regular course of work and he replied with utmost ease and clarity “ Have you ever played a Mario Video game in which the guy crosses various stages, fighting obstacles, taking powers & so on, You need that power!

Though I had understood what he meant and it required immediate action, but at the same time I was wondering at his way of looking at Professional Life-Jobs, Office.

What he meant

1.In Mario ( there are 8 levels in the game with each level consisting of 4 stages with increasing level of difficulty) , Job is also like that there are hierarchy  the companies we work with responsibities increasing as we go up.

2. In Mario, every level is different with different types of creatures to trouble you, mountains, flying creatures and you have to escape and concur all of them, then only one stage will be completed, similarly at every stage in our career we have different people to deal with, different attitudes, egos and we have to pass all of them to clear that stage/designation.

3. In Mario, you get coins, if you collect 100 you will get one life additional, if you get star, who so ever you collide, he will die, if you get flower, you can throw balls at creatures, they will die, similarly in jobs you get your chances to prove yourself, opportunities, meetings where you showcase your mettle by presenting some new concept, betterment of any existing concept.

4.In Mario, at the end of every level, there is dragon stage, where you have to rescue the queen and at the stage 8.4,queens of queen is caged by dragon, You have to pass through flying fire, and then finally rockets by the dragon and as you escape the dragon by cheating him and pressing the lever, he goes, he goes in the line of fire and queen is yours, similarly we at the end of every stage have to prove ourself by the work we have done at every stage and convince the boss that we have added value to the team.

5. So in nutshell, Mario passes through lot of stages, hurdles, opportunities to get his queen while we also pass through same to get our goal.

What a interesting way to look at the Job, I was thinking aloud that weather Life can be viewed in similar fashion!

Rest in my next blog, share your views

Vikas Sachdeva

Different Emotions & temporariness

It was 4 pm while I was sitting in office thinking about temporariness of everything, yesterday only a earthquake had shattered many lives in sikkim, few days earlier blasts in Mumbai took place killing and Injuring many. So there was nature and well as humans dictating the terms telling me don’t be sure of anything, it may change any moment.

When we are happy or sad, we tend to attribute whatever is happening to us  to some reason, some cause.

I suddenly heard   the  conversations  between  Fear, Love, Sadness, Attitude, Heart and Mind. Though they tried that they are not heard somehow I managed to sneak in.

Love was as usual funky singing the song in the canteen loudly  “ ye reshmi julphen , hye sharbati aankhein”…..he made sure he was heard, everybody was enjoying it, he was teasing sadness who was just sitting in the corner reading the report on blasts. She was introvert from her childhood but yet opportunist to get the attention whenever she required.

While heart was enjoying the song by Love, Mind was just busy in analyzing don’t know what, he was pretending that he is doing something genius and would make difference to rest of people sitting around.

Attitude and fear had gone to take some snacks for all of them, they all were part of a group, really pulling each other’s leg always showing the importance but not meaning it.

Fear was the smartest person  among  them, he knew when to speak and when to be silent.

One fine day, when they all were drunk,attitude thought of playing a game with all of them,he made teams, Fear with sadness( sady was too attractive for fear!!, saat janam saath rehne ki kasamein khaa lit hi jaise),Love and heart ( amitabh and dhamendra in modern sholday!!) and he had himself paired up with Mind.attitude always had a respect for mind for his skills( Sachin and dravid)

They started playing  game  “ Truth or dare” whereby rotating the bottle depending on its direction one has to choose between truth and dare”

Bottle started spinning, first it stopped at love and heart team.

Truth or Dare, attitude asked!!

“Dare “shouted Heart (Love was clueless why why on the earth Heart did this!)

Attitude said “Go and speard yourself in all conditions, circumstances”

Love was clueless; he had to do what his teammate heart had put him into.

Love started being present in all conditions, for the starting phase he enjoyed the limelight, with time, he started to feel the pinch, since he was not able to be present all the time, he started pretending.

HE HAD TO BE GENINUINE WHEREVER NEEDED AND PRETENDING WHERE THERE  WAS  A NEED.

As a result, Heart was happy when he found love acting true to itself and sad when pretending.

Bottle started rolling again and it was fear and sadness’s turn

Sadness who always was introvert spoke” truth”!

Amazed by this action, Mind really clapped!

Mind said” you both Fear and sadness have to be together ( fear was happy ) and you cannot pretend, but we will have control over you, I appoint Love as observer.

Fear was stronger of the two, he told to sadness” let me do my work, I will make people weak, I wil force them to think again & again, I will control them, sadness who could hear the devilishness of fear was not in agreement, she didn’t like what fear was doing, she decided to play separately.

Next was the turn of Mind and Attitude, being the eldest, they were controlling Love, Heart, fear and sadness so as they can come in phases and turn by turn, their job was to not to allow anybody dominate.

THEY MADE SURE ALL EMOTIONS WERE TEMPORARILY PLAYING THEIR ROLE.

Suddenly I woke up, wondering what these emotions were up to and why did I hear their conversation! But somehow I really loved the characterization of these emotions!

But I had found my answer, Role of each emotion, and TEMPORARINESS.

Rest in my next blog, Happy Reading!

Vikas Sachdeva

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your mother

Today is mother’s day, some times I really wonder the messages on facebook, SMSes, mails mentioning mother’s day are so high in number, do people really mean it or its just momentary ?

& we reply to those messages, like them and certainly agree with every line friends post.

How many of us have called our mother today in the morning & said “you are special”

Some people are lucky, they are together with their mother today in the same house while people like us who are out stationed are busy in our own schedules.


Just go back to your childhood, just visualize, your mother running after you with something in her hand running behind you to eat something?, giving you milk when you are back from school.

It was august 1990 when my Mom got a job, everybody was very happy, We all 3 kids were also happy not even knowing why we were excited ( I was then 8 yrs old, Vipul was 6 yrs old and Shelly was just crawling with 3 yrs under her belt)

Slowly things started changing, Mom cooking the food early in the morning at 5 am, putting the same in hot case, all house was empty at 8 am with all three of us in school and Papa by dropping all of us on his Bajaj Chetak and Mummy to school.

On returning, we generally found no body at home at around 2.30 pm, then taking food from hot case & eating without taste.

But financial condition was good, we were told to spend cautiously, value system was installed as it was hard earned money with lot of sweat and time that could have been given to us in the absence of school.


Mother’s are made to give, just sincerely look into her eyes & ask yourself, does she really need your money? Does she not happy with your accomplishments? Does she really interfere?

Yes, ways have changed and our thinking has changed, we really get panicky on being questioned a little extra. did you not ask same questions many times when you were kid and she responded the same no of times?

We generally think they don’t understand how much effort you have made in understanding them? Yes they live in small town and their thinking is limited to the area but you have come from that town only and it’s because of their sacrifices you are enjoying the uninterrupted life in Metros.




Parents have started getting intimidated from their own children

Wo kya sochega? Jaane do mat kaho use

Kahin bura na maan jaaye?


Kya zaroorat hai?


Friends, They really filter their feelings while speaking to us, they say those words only which only please us, sometime from your routine talks at home, just ask your mother , aur mummy aap khush ho na? Repeatedly saying this thing will really open her up and she will talk to her kid & confide.


At our age, Mother needs us more than we do; we really occupy ourselves with friends, movies, office and what about her? Her own friend for life is you!


Increase the frequency of calling in the day from just once at night of twice daily, this will make mom feel happy.

Always speak to your mom when you are lost, she will bail you out completely somehow or the other, god has given the powers to her, be it any emotional trap you are in.

You will always be kid to her, always, no matter how much you earn!


Just for a second imagine, people who have lost heir mom, what they are missing in life.


She doesn’t want anything from us, just our time which we have a lot for rest of the world, some daily conversations and care and affection.



Rest in my next blog


Vikas sachdeva

"Ladki kaise patayen"

A relaxed Sunday , with no work (as if I do work, huh!), Sahara sports awards on TV & I am alone in the house as swati has gone for her leisure trip (believe me girls love this word most- Leisure). While she must be enjoying the holidays with all the luxurious home made food , chaats & chatting, roaming around in the market entertaining lots of shopkeepers but pleasing only one or two as she will be buying from them in the quantities which they will like.

And me, yes me! Instead of looking out for some gorgeous beauties outside (its afternoon yaar!) spending time by waiting for the maid who will cook & help this brilliant personality (in case you don’t know who, its me!) can eat.

 In today’s blog, I want to help those poor chaps jo kaafi time laga dete hain ladki patane mein aur kabhi kabhi to pta hi nahi paate, you know there is fierce competition 941 girls for every 1000 boys, before worrying about 59 boys who will be left out,

let me extend a helping hand to all those jo bus aah bhi karte hai to ho jaate hain badnam, aur wo katal bhi karte hain to charcha nahi hoti.

 Ladki patane se pehle you need to understand basic behavior pattern which is common among all girls jo maine barson se itni mehnat se seekha hai,aaj bata raha hun

1.You need to have spontaneous sense of humor, girls love this, you need to be spontaneous in pulling somebody’s legs (I didn’t mean that way!) in front of her, and she will really think you are smart whatever may be the reality.
2.Be flirtiest but after gauging the limit of the girl in front of you.( Go on IF the there are signals but start with

Tum aaj achi lag rahi ho!

Nice dress!!

Your earings are looking good (always remember accessories ki tariff karma bahut jaroori hai!)

Hey where did u bought this jeans from, you look good in this (and next time whenever she will pull the jeans from her almirah,you, you are the first person that will be flashed in her mind!)

Stare at her (in her eyes damid) for 10-12 seconds and smile for 3- 4 days & then for 2-3 days don’t give attention at all, look busy. ( This point is for throwing a questionnaire in her mind) Why did he look at me like this? He likes me? Ok, I wll wear this today! What happened, suddenly kya ho gaya hai usko, dekh bhi nahi raha? & so on.

Remember , Girls take time, they analyze you completely on following points before considering you

Looks: dressing sense, smartness, weather you both will look good together in public and her friend circle. Financials: salary (yes the take home not CTC) and you need to have strong finances for her to put you in the contender list.

Nod from her friends: Even if you are great, but lot of things depends what her friends think about you, you better be in their wish list too to make your girl feel that she is making right decision by choosing you as her friends shouldn’t get you. she consults with her friends more often.

& you need to be fun loving, caring, not asking about her friends, protective, romantic & so on & you thought it’s easy.

isliye don’t say to yourself after 2-3 meetings with girl, “yaar, I will marry her” because currently her observation & analysis mode is on.

Sometimes fake your emotions & tell her something that should sound personal “ pata nahi kyun, aaj man nahi lag raha ,akela lag raha hai, ne way hws life ( akela my foot!)

You should offer her anything that should make her find interest in you Gossips Movies Parties Personality

You need to show respect for her more often in public.

Gifts always make her interested depending on the amount you spend on gifts , but make sure you are doing investment not spends.

When you talk, always see in her eyes, this eye contact is very crucial. Girls always like to be attention seeker, so dare you give the same when demanded.

Don’t sound too much intellectual while in conversations, with the period of time you will be termed as boring or GOOD FRIEND.

With the mood swings, you also need to change your topics of discussions continuously, be on your toes.

TRY TO LEAD ALWAYS, do not depend on her to take calls Kahan jaayen aaj sham ko? (bloody u need to tell for suggestion aaj shaam ko Chinese khaane chalte hain ? Let’s go out on a trip this weekend

They seek approvals on whatever they do, be political & smart always. So guys, buck up, I have always believed that ki agar tum chaho to kisi bhi ladki ko pata sakte ho, you can really do her , be it anybody.

All they want is money, understanding, gifts, love, secure future ( car, flat), less spying, always praising whatever they do & so on……

All the best, rest in my next 

Vikas Sachdeva

Power of Touch

Power of Touch & this is the only part which was missing in her life, I mean Kiran’s life, she had boyfriend Rakesh but in another city, phone calls, SMS were all there but yes the number was decreasing day by day.

 Then Akash entered her life as a friend, a good friend, lover and now husband. He played the game beautifully, just putting hand over her shoulder & saying, don’t worry I am there. Hugging when it mattered the most, soft slaps on her cheeks had become part of daily life,

she had started living her life with fresh air & her earlier boyfriend Rakesh was no where part of her life now.

By the way, Akash had also one beautiful girlfriend named Avani but again in another city, when she heard about Akash & his new venture, She really cried hard in front of me ( I was just a common friend between Akash and Avani) A Touch had changed Kiran” life, she was in need of that. Somebody who could pull her hair when she did any mistake, somebody to apply cream when her foot was hurt, somebody’s shoulders on which she can put her head in the night & close her eyes.

Everybody needs that touch, that love. A friend who can understand without uttering any word, by just looking into your eyes and saying I love holding hand together while walking in the night meaning I am there for you. In college I had one question & that was Why girls do so much of drama, kiddishness in front of guys,mujhe ye chahiye,…pls no….. you, movie chalen…..tell no……coffee at my place? & why it cant be I want this or lets go for movie , why this “no”. I was then enlightened by my friend Shweta, Girls do this so as they can get your attention, Pampering & I was satisfied with that answer to move on in my life.


when somebody is happy, Just put your shoulder around his neck & say I am happy for you,the entire life he will feel the same touch whenever he meets you. When somebody is feeling lonely ( & I am also including the scenes when you are surrounded by people & yet searching for someone) ,Just hold his hand & say Don’t worry,Main hoon na , chal lets go for small trip……oh boy, you know by holding the hand you have completed his life at that moment.

When someone is sad, look into his eyes and don’t say anything, just hear him out completely, & just be there.( beware don’t use the old lines, ye sabke saath hota hai,mere saath bhi hua & don’t start your own story) When somebody is crying, hug him hard, There is no harm in submission

Yes, we have to fight our battles by own self, Yes, We have different environments to cope with, Yes, we have different people to deal with. But yes, when you give that TOUCH to somebody, you have really arrived in his life, In a scenario where everybody is running a race, your touch will make people smile & you will get touch someday too!!

A relaxed Sunday morning, need to go to honor some touches (ooh la la!)


Rest in my next

Love you all

Vikas Sachdeva

We,Punjabi's

A relaxed Sunday evening, I am sitting at the same place, on a mattress in the hall with air crossing from the window, Love this time as it doesn’t allow the feeling of monday sinking in as it keeps me occupied with something i love, WRITING.

Last Time, sitting here, I mentioned in my last blog about few people in my life who have been a lifeline, no matter, how less we interact, meet but the only their existence makes me feel great.

Just went to my hometown to attend my cousin’s marriage in Punjab, a colorful, loud place where everybody has his/her own world & they want everybody to address their way, I have been born and brought up there ( with 3 yrs stint in Srinagar,kasmir!!) & have something to share about WE, PUNJABIS.

1. Punjabi’s are very loud, when they talk, no need of loudspeakers, we don’t need man made machines, our voices are enough even if we are not addressing a crowd, we speak in high tone.

2. Punjabi’s are very very emotional, though they try to cover up by high notes in voice and show they are not affected by any emotion, they are.

3. You dare not paying attention to them, they will hit you again and again and make sure they finish whatever intellectual they were saying and still they tell you “Samajh Gaya na”

4. A friend for life, you can blindly trust them, God has not given them thinking capabilities beyond a point so they will never harm if you are friend.

5.We only need parathas for lifetime just three times a day,Morning,Afternoon and Night & in between we can be served anything.

6. We are very uncomfortable eating Chinese food; Punjab has not given noodles the status of food.

7. When we are in love, we give and give and only give. We love so much that sometimes it becomes really mandatory for other person to literally ask for distance.

8. Punjabi’s are often found hurt either by someone’s comments or for not given the proper food at friend’s place.

9.If you are in trouble, tell a Punjabi, they will kill it to the core so bad that the concept of recarnation need to be abolished, but there is one problem, you need to tell them you are in problem.

10.Very expressive, all gussa and pyar you can see on their face clearly.



11. Some of the generally used lines by Punjabis.

Yaar Tu tension na le ( they repeat so many times that the other person really thinks that am I in tension)

Tu mera bhra hai & they hug you (they have so many brothers and sisters around the world!!)

Tu Ruk,Main btata hun( and you wait for your turn till they decide to go for sleep)


12. They have spontaneous raw sense of humor which you will love.

13. You are in the safest arms when they hug you.

14. Generally, They feel suffocated when they are put in intellectual discussions, so inspite of not knowing what the topic is, they make sure they are only heard.

15. We have our own world, either enter and adjust or else you will be kicked way.

16.You make food for them, they will love you forever for anything.

17. Punjabi’s don’t have high urge to earn money, all they need in life is big house, great clothes, a big car to flaunt in the town, same type of food, a beautiful wife/a gabru husband and we will happily die.

18. Punjabis know only two words Yes and No, the in between words to be handled by rest of the world.


19. Generally you will be found on receiving end, all the love and care or the heat, its upto your capabilities what you attract.

20. Very high on family values, You treat their family well, They will forget their own son/daughter and give you the importance which you have not imagined in your life.


I think, its enough now, there is enough in Punjabi’s to fall for.

People with extreme love

We, Punjabi’s.

Rest in my next blog.

Some important people in my life

Some important people in my life

I loved one friend’s status on facebook that “The more we are connecting electronically, the less we are becoming emotionally bonded.

The good thing facebook is doing that people are really expressing themselves on this platform as if they have got one close friend to share(Facebook has been kind of emotional support to many).

Coming back to real world from online world, we all share some special bonds with some people who have played/are playing a good role in our life..From childhood to wherever you are now, some people have been with you somehow & yes they are responsible for what you are today.

I also have few people who I just thought of mentioning today who have contributed directly or indirectly, helped me in thick and thin, making me what i am today and this is not a farewell speech but I just want to acknowledge & thank them, As I have learnt that everybody loves to read/know about themselves, just thought to write about few people, few important people in my life.

(Before you read in detail, the names are Lovely, Tejinder Singh, Neeraj Sharma, Manoj Shah, Amrisha and Abhishek, Swati, Mamta and Endee)

1. Lovely

It was the class 6^th to 8^th, this guy was not my friend but a threat. His roll number was next to me & I always ran away from him, I didnt know why I was so scared of him, I used to complete his assignments daily. My mom saw the growing tension on my face & one day I told her that this guy got all his assignments done by me regularly, Mom went to that guy’s house & blasted him in front of his mother. From then I was a free bird,

From him,I learnt the meaning of the word POWER.

2. Tejinder Singh

He was with me in my engineering days, He was a go getter, fearless, His home was just 30 km from my hometown, and we used to travel together on weekends. He would never stop, he was a solution provider.He was my best friend, whenever there used to be something wrong, I always used to go to him & he would leave everything to help me & take me out of the trouble. There I learnt friendship.

3. Neeraj Sharma

Oh God, I loved the energy he had, So much of positivism, so much exploration he had done, we are together for over 20 years now & the special bond I share with this guy is magical, We were friends earlier and somehow we were not in talking terms for years.Suddenly one fine day on some festival he came home , we sorted everything & then  this magical friendship resumed.

He went to Mumbai first & I used to see Mumbai from his eyes, the power this city had, Mumbai soon became a destination where I wanted to go. The great quality this guy has is the sense of humor & the timing, spontaneity which I have always enjoyed, also his sense of understanding of situations is great, what I have learnt from him is that exploring the world/people, care, unconditional love & sense of practicality of situations.

4. Manoj Shah

He was my senior in MBA college, my guide &  my mentor.Wherever I got stuck, he was there, The greatest quality I learnt from him to LISTEN, he is a great listener,he would hear you out completely & then give his opinion what he feels, not enforcing. He had a major impact in my MBA life in terms of how I used to think about people. A very special bond I share with him, very special, now also whenever there is something I need to talk about, He is the first person that comes to my mind.

Oh! fantastic sense of wittiness I learnt from him,Yes,Positive approach to life, On his scooty I used to roam around in Pune till I got bike.

5.Amrisha Srivastva and Abhishek Acharya

These are the people from whom I learnt new dimension of friendship, they brought a real change in me what I use to think about friendship, Care, Love that I got from them was great. Had I not met them, I would not have known what that dimension of friendship they taught me..Amrisha is a fighter & every time I hear line from Movie jab we met “ Main apni favorite hun” she comes to my mind,

She really used to love herself, a lot, and with abhishek I share a eternal connction as he is the only one to catch my filmy chemistry in the whole world, he used to display the same energy in acting or dialogues which anybody till now has not been able to.

6. Swati Bajpai

She is a wonderful soul i have met,  great respect as a person she commands from me, We met in our MBA college and rest is a history.

The more I know about her, the more excited I am. She taught me to live in present, very clear in her thoughts, her sense of understanding, the logicalisation she does, when we were in college, she was a partner not a demanding girlfriend, a down to earth human being. a fantastic sense of humor,a good singer & a good friend & above all the cuteness oh gosh is amazing. We fought a lot but one good thing was we knew that we had divine connection.

7. Mamta Ranasaria

A energy powerhouse, A philosopher, this human being is so pure with whatever she does. Purity is her strength. I met her in last leg of 2007, fascinated by her actions which she wanted all the time. I hadn’t met this kinds of powerhouses before, Passion, self pampering, exploration is the key this person has,

I saw myself evolving the more I interacted with her, one great thing I learnt and saw with her ( which I call page 3 world) were the parties, a new dimension, a new set of people in the various places in Mumbai. She broadened my horizon day by day & I was learning. Her spontaneity, sense of rationalism, emotions are one above normal people. I share a special bond with this lady and it’s beyond transactions. I have great respect for her for the way she is.PURE.

8. Endee Rampal

Came year 2014, I was doing some research about Lavasa online and i saw her photographs on FB staying in Lavasa. She was with me in my Welspun days and i didnt hesitate to ask her about Lavasa. .Whatever feedback she gave, i went to Lavasa and a new tale began.

She is a wonderful girl i have ever met till now, so warm and so pure just like mountain water. I met her in last few months in delhi and whenever i interact with her, i feel so much of connect. What i learnt from her is unconditional care and love without any layers. Further i like her elegant dressing sense and the way she carries herself. We create special moments between us and will cherish them forever.

There are many more who have influenced me in my life till now but above mentioned have added a new dimension in my life, I love them beyond boundaries.

Thanks for making me what I am today

Lots of love, hugs

Vikas sachdeva